Yann Moix is one of those French authors rather famous in France and rather unknown anywhere else which is an interesting commentary upon the universality of French culture. He’s also in trouble because he’s just said something so obviously true that it outrages people. He’s said that dating women over 50 just isn’t the same. Which, given that we’re an animal that has evolved is just one of those true things really. If we were to flip the gender switch here it’s the same point as noting the incredible dating success of men of low social status. That’s just the way we humans work.
No, it shouldn’t be isn’t a valid complaint, just as whining that the species is on average a fraction less than bipedal isn’t. Some things just are.
A popular French author and television presenter has caused outrage after claiming he was “incapable” of loving a woman aged over 50. Yann Moix, 50, told a glossy magazine: “Come on now, let’s not exaggerate! That’s not possible … too, too old.” In the interview with Marie-Claire magazine’s French edition, Moix, the author of several prize-winning novels, added that women in their 50s were “invisible” to him. “I prefer younger women’s bodies, that’s all. End of. The body of a 25-year-old woman is extraordinary. The body of a woman of 50 is not extraordinary at all,” he said, adding that he preferred to date Asian women, particularly Koreans, Chinese and Japanese.
Note what he hasn’t said. He hasn’t said that when the little cherub starts firing arrows around that women over 50 are ignored. Nor that ageing through life with one’s soulmate works less than well. What he has said is that when we’re talking about Eros, the whoarr, fnarr fnarr, stuff, men prefer fertile women. Little about human beings makes sense without grasping this.
After all, we do say these days that every little boy and girl is born with that sexual desire fixed. We all pop out – science differs about whether this exists from conception or whether hormones and the womb influence but our cultural assumption is that by the time the head crowns it’s fixed – hetero-, bi-, homo-, lesbi- and whatever the other 43 variants currently identified are and that’s just that. The continuation of the species rather depending upon that fnarr being, for some reasonable portion of us, connected to fertility in the object of desire.
Which, of course, it is. For no other reason than we’re all descended from people who found fertility sexually attractive. So, we find fertility sexually attractive.